Self-care and other November 2020 Expenses

No Negativity November

The theme of this month was “self-care.” It’s easy to get used to the day-to-day rhythm of life and forget to make that extra effort to take care of ourselves. I pushed hard in November for all forms of self-care. I got myself a therapist, went for yoga and a run (yes singular… working on making it more frequent), picked up meditation, and have been doing lots of reflection. I also carved out a lot of time to catch up with friends old and new.

As part of this shift towards taking care of myself, I loosened my wallet strings a bit, or at least that’s how it felt. While in my day-to-day I never feel deprived, I still sometimes need encouragement to spend a little more. This was my month for that, though I’m planning to bring this theme into 2021 as well. I’m interested to check out the spending report and see how much of a difference it made on my numbers!

I went home for the last week of November and may stay here in December too, so my spending will likely decrease because they feed me so well (thanks, mom & dad!). 

Let’s get down to business

I don’t know how much I spend until I tally up my expense report, so it’s always interesting to compare what I expect with what actually happened. 

Note: This is the spending for just me. I report expenses when I pay them, so you may not see insurance or other bills until the month that I pay them.

Item Amount Mechanic Musings
Rent $1,320  
Therapy $250 Although we’ve done couple’s counseling before, as part of my self-care kick I booked myself individual therapy. It has been AMAZING. I was always put off by the cost and not really feeling like I needed extra ‘help’ or ‘perspective’ but I’ve already felt a big difference by talking with a professional. It was $125 per session. 

Apparently watching bad movies in bed with Ben & Jerry’s (and a cat) does not count as proper therapy
Massage $50 The last time I went for a massage was for a fun class a few years ago, this was the first time I’ve bought myself a massage as an adult.
Restaurants $65 Hilariously I thought I was going wild with eating out this month—from tacos to ordering in Indian food to getting pho, but the final bill of $65 is much less than I expected.

Utilities $50 Our gas bill
Groceries $34 I had a lot of leftovers this month, so I ended up not spending much on groceries.
Fuel $26  
Internet $20  
Misc $3 Patreon and parking
Total $1,818 For all my talk of “loosening the wallet strings” it looks like this was actually a really low spend month. I only spent ~$500 on things other than rent, and half of that was on therapy! I’m sure that spending the last week of the month with my parents helped with the low cost as well. I mean check out the pie selection for Thanksgiving (below)!
 
We couldn’t decide on a single pie
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Impersonal Finances
Impersonal Finances
7 months ago

Wow–that is kicking some frugal ass! Awesome job. Makes me want to go get a massage…

Joe
Joe
7 months ago

You gotta take care of number 1.
I haven’t had a massage for about a year. 🙁
Best wishes.

Chris@TTL
7 months ago

That dish looks delicious. We’ve been leveraging DoorDash, Caviar, etc more with the pandemic—and with all the coupons and promos and being careful to do pickup…it’s not all that expensive to have a nice meal “out” here and there.

Glad to hear the therapy has been productive.

I hope you and mom and dad are doing well and catching some of the holiday spirit as head through December. AND MechaniCat! <3

Fresh Life Advice
Fresh Life Advice
7 months ago

Kudos to you for making this past month a self-care month! There is such a negative stigma around therapy, and I’m impressed you overcame the vulnerability to take action. I can’t believe your final bill for restaurants AND groceries was under $100, I need to take lessons from you. Keep up the frugality!

David @ Filled With Money

Yup, financial independence is all about taking 5 steps forward and 1 step back. As long as the net result is forward, it’s amazing. Have to put the brakes once in a while and take care of yourself!