4 Ways Financial Independence Changed Our Lives (Work, Health, Time, Mentality)

** Financial independence has far-reaching effects on our lives, and for many the pursuit of independence and the obtaining of it has impacted us in profound ways. Today, we hear from Jenni and Chris from TicTocLife, two mid-thirties career-driven folks who reached financial independence by age 33 and retired early at 35. If you are interested in writing for series and answering the question “How did financial independence change your life?” please reach out! **

Jenni and Chris from TicTocLife 

The most remarkable part about how financial independence (FI) has changed our lives is in how little, at least from the outside, it’s had any visible effect. The best way to sum this up is—wealth is what you can’t see.

That’s not to say that FI hasn’t been a meaningful achievement within our lives or that we don’t greatly appreciate what it’s allowed us to do. FI has had an incredible, meaningful impact on us internally.

But, from the outside looking in, it’s hard to say that our friends or family would have been aware that we were working to achieve financial independence throughout our mid-20s and early 30s.

There was no fanfare when we crossed the million-dollar mark at 33 years old. We didn’t celebrate by signing a lease on a new BMW. Or, conversely, by doubling down on frugal grocery shopping by switching from Kroger to Aldi.

For us, FI has always been about the mentality more than it has been about any meaningful, visible changes to our lives. The lightbulb didn’t come on one day—and boom—we sold our oversized house, cut our new car lease short, or scrapped our credit cards.

Instead, it’s the slow and steady life we’ve always lived since both of our professional careers started.

What makes financial independence an achievable goal is to first build the life you desire. Color in the details of what matters to you and find the hobbies that spark your interest, imagination, creativity, and fulfillment. With your sights set on the broad outlines of a life worth living, you’ll have the motivation you need to save for that life in the long term.

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While our friends and family may not have noticed a visible change once we crossed the financial independence finish line, that doesn’t mean there weren’t some very real ways it changed our lives.

In fact, FI has had a significant effect on our work, health, time, and mentality.

Becoming Financially Independent

Before revealing the four ways financial independence has changed our lives, we wanted to give you a brief history of how we reached FI and what that process looked like.

Since we’ve carefully tracked our annual expenses for years, it was easy to see exactly when we officially crossed over our FI line.

In 2018, we hit our FI number and ended the year at a net worth of $1.2 million. In just 9 years we managed to crawl out of $107K in debt and become millionaires.

Jenni & Chris's net worth over time until they reached financial independence in 2018.
Jenni & Chris’s net worth over time until they reached financial independence in 2018.

Yet neither of us made any dramatic changes to our lives that year. In fact, we kept living frugally and working on our careers for years more.

Finally, we realized by achieving our long-term goal, we were able to reduce our work hours. This resulted in improvements to both our mental and financial health.

Perhaps most importantly, the time we had available each day was now more malleable and under our control than ever before.

Our FI timeline

While we didn’t climb out of debt until around 2012, the seed for FIRE was planted way back in 2007. This was when Chris started reading about personal finance through Get Rich Slowly.

It was just a year out of college for him, saving and investing started to become part of our conversation years before either of us were earning much money.

Here are the key years for our timeline to financial independence:

  • 2011: Jenni begins work as a full-time pharmacist
  • 2012: Chris leaves full-time work, consults part-time
  • 2016: Chris reaches FI while consulting, starts a second business
  • 2018: We reach FI together
  • 2020: Jenni changes to part-time work
  • 2021 (now): Plan for RE

Chris had been independently FI since 2016. His desire for a 9 to 5 was gone by the time he left full-time work in 2012.

The concept of a four-hour workweek was more his style. Good ol’ Tim Ferriss might have had something to do with that.

On the other hand, it took a while for Jenni to accept the biggest freedom from achieving FIwe do not need to work.

In 2018, Jenni was right in a middle of a huge two-year-long project. Its success meant a lot to her. She stayed on to see it through to the end.

With a little introduction and FI history out of the way, let’s look at the first change we noticed once we reached FI—and it relates to work.

Change 1) Work is Optional

Once we achieved financial independence, we were able to dramatically reduce our work hours. We were given the option to choose to work on projects that were meaningful or interesting to us.

Work became less stressful and—dare say—fun.

Neither of us felt a great urgency to pull the trigger on complete early retirement as soon as we could. We’ve both found a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction from our work.

Chris finds meaning in work

Being his own boss with the freedom to make his own schedule gave him a taste of what FI might be like—he was hooked.

He continued to scale back his business even further in 2020 to an average of 35 hours per month. Now, he accepts fewer client contracts. He has the freedom to say no to a job that’s not a good fit.

At this point, Chris frequently turns down projects that aren’t a good fit. He works in digital strategy with enterprise, government, education, and non-profits.

For example, he rejected a project with a Confucius Institute on the east coast because of questionable practices despite a large budget.

Yet, he’s accepted a renewal on a project into 2021 because of the potential impact he can have as well as the mission behind it. He served as the digital strategist on the team years back but has continued on (offering free guidance and advice) as they seek funding to continue the project.

Here’s a snippet of an email he received from the project lead at the end of 2020:

I cannot believe this, but the [] study was FUNDED!!!!!! I am close to speechless and so incredibly grateful to the contribution that each and every one of you made for this project. I am beside myself. This is the first ever​ study this size focused on Black women with endometrial cancer, the first ever randomized trial to improve the lives of Black women with endometrial cancer, the first EVER study to do so in partnership​ with Black women with endometrial cancer.

Recently, he’s been in touch with the CDC to keep a different cancer-related small academic project going. It was starting to slip through the cracks as some universities struggle with the pandemic.

You can probably see why this is the sort of work that motivates him to keep going. It’s work he wants to do without feeling pressure to find a way to bill or earn a profit.

He hasn’t taken on a new client for years and continues to wind down existing contracts.

Jenni accepts freedom from work

But now that we met our goal, it was Jenni’s turn to spend less time at work so we could really start living our FIRE life.

When the first opportunity arose, Jenni transitioned to part-time work in 2020. She was able to define her new position and maintain the aspects of her job she really enjoyed.

Work became more satisfying and less stressful.

Who says FIRE doesn't mean you can't take a luxurious trip now and then? One of the last trips we took before the pandemic was to the stunning French Leave Resort on Eleuthera Island—but we did it for cheap!
Who says FIRE doesn’t mean you can’t take a luxurious trip now and then? One of the last trips we took before the pandemic was to the stunning French Leave Resort on Eleuthera Island—but we did it for cheap!

The right amount of the right work

Last year we were able to reduce our works hours by about two-thirds. The work we choose to do is work that we care about.

It’s work that won’t leave us stressed out and exhausted at the end of the day.

Jenni recently chose to pick up extra shifts to make it easier for a coworker to take paternity leave. She’s also helping out at mass COVID-19 vaccination clinics.

This type of work gave her satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment. It’s the type of work that leaves her feeling like a useful member of society still.

When Chris was approached by a potential buyer for one of his businesses in 2019, he had the option to say no when he discovered it wasn’t a good fit.

With our financial stability, we can choose whether not to accept a new contract or to negotiate reduced hours.

We no longer rely on that next paycheck.

Being confident in our financial health let us take 20+ hours from our workweek and give it to our personal time to spend together.

Reduced work responsibilities lifted a ton of stress and anxiety off our shoulders. Work complaints no longer took over our dinner conversations. Our home life became a more positive atmosphere.

Our new focus was spending quality time together and planning the details of our FI lives together.

More specifically, it was time to pay some much-needed attention to our mental health.

Change 2) Healthy State

A mental weight was lifted off our shoulders once we achieved financial independence. We no longer had to feel overworked and anxious from our work. The emotional distress over an unexpected expense or loss of a client was removed.

Our conversations shifted from work problems to be about us.

Financial independence gave us the freedom to choose things that are good for our mental wellbeing.Click To Tweet

Our days are what we make of them. Most of the time, we wake up and decide on a fun outdoor activity, visit friends or family, or plan for our next adventure together.

We have a passion for running, biking and being outside. Our neighborhood makes an afternoon run or hikes along the water very accessible.

Biking Virginia's Capital Trail is a great excuse to get outside!
Biking Virginia’s Capital Trail is a great excuse to get outside!

If we want to stay up late playing an online game with friends around the country or sleep in to cuddle on a cold winter morning—we can.

Our days are mostly stress-free except maybe trying to finish up a post for TicTocLife—ha. Sometimes the work we choose to do is challenging. But it is never something that takes over our mind for the day, week or year.

Lately, we are giving back to our community through volunteer work.

Jenni uses her expertise to vaccinate our community through her pharmacy. She’s also volunteering at vaccination clinics with Virginia’s Medical Reserves Corps.

Chris has been donating his time and resources as well. That’s been as small as refurbishing equipment from offices which he then donates to local organizations (which might otherwise meet the landfill). Or as large as helping with digital information delivery for urgent COVID-19-related concerns in high-risk populations.

Our volunteer interests continue to expand after learning about them for our monthly donation poll. Unfortunately, many applications have been put on hold until they have a better handle on this pandemic.

FI has granted us the comfort to not have to worry about the cost of an emergency or a surprise expense.

For example:

  • A $500 MRI copay didn’t break the bank, although we wished the insurance paid more
  • Replacing the whole rear roof when a squirrel chewed a hole through it was covered by our funds already set aside in our housing repair budget
  • Jenni’s car was t-boned, we had $3,200 in cash to make up the difference between the $3,500 insurance payment to replace our totaled 2005 Scion Xa with a 2008 Prius

We could focus all our efforts on resolving the immediate problem at hand and not have anxiety about how we would afford these expenses.

Financial independence allows us to choose how we want to spend our days.

We can choose to work or choose to play.

We can focus on ourselves and ensure our mental health is a priority.

This freedom to choose is our reward for achieving FI.

Change 3) Time Control

By achieving financial independence, we now have the ability to remove the things that we don’t need to do. FI has given us more control over the time in our lives.

With this control, we’ve been able to focus on the second half of FIRE: retiring early.

What’s our primary purpose to achieve FI? We want to have more time together.

Now that we’re both working part-time, it’s nice not to have to rush off to work every morning only to return home after dark, exhausted and stressed out.

More time with each other is our ultimate goal but FI doesn’t mean more time directly. A change has to happen to free up the time from somewhere else.

Chris has been free to work as much or as little as he pleased since he became FI in 2016. He slowly reduced his work over the years while waiting for Jenni to pull the plug. Since Jenni made her big change in the summer of 2020, we now have an extra 20+ hours each week.

Our days are flexible: we do what we want to do and are free to make last-minute changes.

Creating new structures

This newfound freedom can be overwhelming and the lack of structure in our day can be hard to adjust to. Some days there is so much we want to accomplish, but then the day is over and we feel nothing was accomplished.

Jenni has toyed with a few ways to organize her weeks based on her desires. She’s still trying to find the best match to meet her needs.

FI has removed the excuse of not having enough time to focus on what is important to us.

We try to live healthy lives filled with good habits such as:

  • Regular exercise
  • Well-balanced meals
  • Expanding our education
  • Relaxation for our mental health

Whether it is Jenni getting Chris out to the rock climbing wall or Chris encouraging Jenni to beat her PR on the next 10K run, we are always exercising.

New priorities

Chris encouraged a pescatarian diet experiment in October 2019 and it stuck. We’ve enjoyed having the time to find and shop for new vegetable and tofu recipes that meet our dietary wants on top of Jenni’s gluten-free dietary needs.

We’ve learned how to do several DIY home projects (after getting over our fears!) and now have more time to dedicate to complete our to-do list around the house. There is a rewarding feeling that comes with the successful completion of a project.

We would love to say we’ve had more time to travel. Unfortunately, it’s been unsafe to travel during the past year. Although this is very sad for us and traveling was one of the main reasons why we worked so hard for FI, this unforeseen pandemic has allowed us the time to start TicTocLife.

One of our recent trips included visiting the gorgeous Mexican town of Taxco in the mountains, famed for its silver mining! Check out the town off in the distance of the window to the right!
One of our recent trips included visiting the gorgeous Mexican town of Taxco in the mountains, famed for its silver mining! Check out the town off in the distance of the window to the right!

Now that we’ve reached FI, we gained more control of our time.

Change 4) Confident Mentality

Financial independence has solidified thoughts about our financial health. We conducted our annual financial review at the end of 2020 to spot check our FIRE budget. We discovered that our dividends and interest alone would cover more than half of our annual expenses.

Jenni has been in disbelief that she could work less and still have more than enough money to maintain our FI goals. 2020 was the first year that we both didn’t work full-time yet we still managed to save about 50% of our income.

We’ve lived a frugal lifestyle most of our adult lives. Our spending habits continue to improve each year by default. Neither of us has ever been a big spender. We truly do enjoy finding a great deal and will take the time to save a buck here and there.

We have our parents to thank for that.

And getting 50% off on a grocery haul is still thrilling.

With more money comes..?

We do not expect to make any dramatic changes in our spending habits now that we are FI. Our goal is to maintain what we have built. We will strive to avoid too much lifestyle creep but every now and then we may splurge, especially on our first post-pandemic vacation.

Jenni has more of a clear understanding of what it means to be FI.

Going part-time was her ‘aha moment’.

She was able to see how the numbers laid out on paper played out in real life.

Now we get to reap the benefits of FI.

We have enough

Something that we are very proud of is our dedication to our charitable giving. We reached our financial goal and decided to create a FIRE principle-based donor-advised fund (DAF).

We’re following FIRE themes with this fund by depositing a year of our FIRE budget in it and donating 4% of the balance over the course of each year. Our readers get to cast their vote in our monthly poll.

By the first year anniversary of TicTocLife on May 8, 2021, our goal is to donate almost $41K to this fund.

Our confidence in our FI plan has been realized.

We’ve saved enough.

Now any extra money made is exactly that, extra. It will provide some cushion to our nest egg and allow us to take on some riskier investments if we choose to do so.

But most importantly, it can form the basis of helping others that haven’t had the opportunities or privilege we’ve had, to have a chance at overcoming adversity.

FI Changed Our Lives

Becoming financially independent doesn’t change who a person is. We’ve worked hard to save enough to meet our FI goal and then some. We are comfortable with our current spending and we like to think we have a pretty lavish life.

Now, we are the fortunate stewards of our own time to do as we please. Our mental and physical health thanks us as we have time to focus on doing what is right for us.

We built our lives around what is important to us and what fulfills our needs. Even a few of our friends are starting to take notice of our subtle changes and may even hop on board this FIRE bus.

Reaching our FI number and declaring financial independence didn’t illicit a grand ceremony. But it also wasn’t the end of our journey.

So what do you think? What is your attitude towards work? What resonates with you about Chris and Jenni’s journey? Let them know in the comments!

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  1. Chris, your story was fascinating to read and learn more about. I did have one follow up question. What was going through your mind when you decided to leave full time work in 2012 just 3 years after starting to work full time (correct me if this is wrong)? If I see your NW chart, you were barely breaking even and climbing out of the hole.

    How did you have the confidence and the foresight to actually make the move to quit? I genuinely want to leave the 9-5 grind to focus on a passion project but I’m so scared of losing the subsidized healthcare, steady paycheck, etc.

    Even though I’m confident that I can make more than what I currently make, I’m worried I’m just over confident. I would like to know your story!

    1. Hey David! Glad you enjoyed the story! Thanks for the question.

      You’re close to right about the timeline! I did about a year of full-time employee work around 2008 before leaving for the Peace Corps. But yes, more or less, it was about 3 years ~2009-2012 that I worked in enterprise and higher ed before moving on to my own consultancy.

      So far as net worth during this time, a couple important notes:
      – The chart is a *combined* net worth for Jenni and I—especially around this time, she was pretty deep in student loan debt but I had none. So I had at least a couple hundred grand to my name I could fall back on around this period… which is also a little opaque in another way…
      – None of our financial reporting includes what (at times) is a key part of my personal decision-making—business assets/revenue/income. Even today, there are at least a couple years worth of income tied up in my businesses that will eventually flow through to me even if I don’t ever do any work again. This was the case in that period, though in a much smaller way. I had some money tied up, contracts on the table, etc that also gave me some confidence.
      – Around 2010, only about a year into my second full-time professional experience, I pulled the plug. I felt like I had enough FU money to make it happen and I wasn’t willing to cut off my side gig when my employer required me to. This post explains that well:
      (I ended up going on to a new, better position elsewhere)

      As far as your concerns:

      I can definitely relate. At the time, around 2012, I was just 27 or 28 years old with a bachelor’s degree in an unrelated liberal arts field from a small college. I was making six figures, often could leave work at 4 or 4:30pm (even arriving around 9am), and frequently work remotely. Had a great team, good connections, and multiple paths to higher leadership positions (beyond being a “senior” person in my MarCom position). I can’t say I was even unhappy!

      But, the structure of the organization (for way more people than me) was dramatically changing and my position was about to be absorbed into IT. I’ve never worked within IT at an organization and I’d already worked *with* IT at this organization, I didn’t want to join. So I left. What I glossed over in my part of this post with Financial Mechanic was some of the middle ground I dealt with before deciding to move on to my consultancy. I did other interviews and turned them down. Including one for $175K, this post explains that well:

      Losing that steady paycheck—those golden handcuffs—can be quite fear-inducing. I think you just need to weigh what matters to you more. If the passion project is also supposed to be something that will make money, make sure you plan/prepare the best you can before burning bridges. Come up with realistic projections, compare that to what you might be willing to sacrifice your personal budget down to in order to support, and come up with a timeline.

      Then take a deep breath and look over that timeline, think about what your life is going to look like—the benefits of getting out of the rat race vs the sacrifices you’ll make to chase the passion project…then add in a “risk multiplier” for how likely it is for your passion project to succeed/what that might mean monetarily and how you can support your life.

      Talk it all over with a trusted ear, voicing it aloud to someone else will help you form your thoughts. They just need to be a sounding board. When you have to make a coherent argument for why you “should”, you’ll probably figure out where the stumbling blocks are on your own.

      Hope that’s helpful David, and thanks for reading—and the question!

  2. Hi Chris and Jenni.
    Wonderful story of dogged perseverance to meet your goals!!
    My follow up question is about healthcare. I would like to retire this year but early research has been disappointing in terms of cost and coverage.
    I am interested to know how to resolved this.

    1. Hey there fixitlady! Thanks for the question.

      Jenni has been working pretty hard to figure out the right answer to just that question herself this past year. As she’s transitioned from full-time to part-time, she lost her employer-sponsored health insurance plan. For several months she was on COBRA. This is her first month on an ACA plan (which is unsubsidized at least at the moment).

      As we both pay for our own health individual health insurance, we can both relate to it being a difficult financial problem to resolve. Our medical insurance premiums were just $1 over the cost of our mortgage interest + principal payments throughout the end of 2020! I believe it was 22% of our total FIRE budget for 2020. Wild!

      Jenni’s review of ACA/COBRA options is here:

      That could be helpful, though she’ll need to write an updated version to reflect her new ACA plan decision.

      Assuming you’re young enough to not qualify yet for medicare and earn too much to qualify for Medicaid, and that you’re in the US, your next best bet is probably an ACA plan. Your choices will vary widely depending on what state you’re in.

      If you’re retiring early, hopefully, you’ll be able to qualify for income-based subsidies for ACA plans that will open up either lower total cost options or better coverage at a reasonable cost. The subsidies have a pretty wide income-based range, you might be surprised what you qualify for despite somewhat high incomes.

      On that note, as a retiree, you probably have more control over how much income you “realize” in a given year. By limiting your expenses, you can reduce how much income you need to cover said expenses, thereby increasing your ACA subsidy. One tactic some retirees use to maximize this is to pay off their mortgage in full (even where that might not make sense investment-wise) in order to reduce their total annual expenses to qualify for subsidies by not needing to realize as much income.

      Another option—and I’m not specifically saying I support or advise this option—but MMM wrote up a good post recently on using modern healthshare systems to reduce medical costs for healthy folks. He also wrote a good bit about Direct Primary Care (DPC), which, personally I find to be a more interesting component. I think it could work well alongside “catastrophic” health insurance. MMM’s post:

      Lastly, there’s always considering geoarbitrage. You could move to another country (or state, depending on ACA plans) where local medical care is less expensive.

      Thanks for the question fixitlady! I hope this response is helpful.

  3. There are several pharmacists in my family and yes, it is a portable expertise at least across CAnada . And now the abiity to vaccinate helps..

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